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By Isabel Wherry as told by Sarah Bruning
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My husband, Alex and I have four children, and with every pregnancy, we decided not to find out gender until birth. We always have a few names of girls and a few of the bargain names of boys. Entering my final pregnancy, Oakley appeared as our best name for a daughter. We liked the names of us for a boy and a girl, but we were asked if it was too nuisance.
In the hospital, the choice seemed clear as soon as the doctor announced, “It’s a girl!” We wrote “Oakley Mae” on the native paperwork and foully my parents to share our excitement.
But only a few weeks later, I couldn’t get rid of the feelings we made the wrong choice. When our daughter was 11 months old, we went to court to change her name. A few hours later, with the occasional announcement of the judge, Oakley Mae was no longer an oakley mae.
Two weeks after bringing Hazley home, I couldn’t stop thinking about Calihan’s name. In Hidinight, I don’t think I would follow the fact that it would be our last baby. I’ve been thinking more about the fact that we couldn’t use Calihan on the future child, I wanted to use it now. I even started calling her “Cali” occasionally to see how he felt.
Giving our children unique names of us have always been important to us because we want them to feel like their own people. We live in a small town and we hate the idea of choosing something we hear all the time. I grew up with a very close family friend who had the same name, which created a lot of confusion. So for our 7-year-old twins, we went with Harlow for a girl and myles for a boy, and our 3-year name is AspenOpens a new window. Our fourth child needed name as unique.
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In addition to Alex, our newborn was the first person I discussed with the change of the Cali’s name. I asked her if she had ever had kalihan in the studio or if she had heard a lot. I felt a sense of relief when the photographer told me that it didn’t come across it, but I felt that I was sorry I didn’t use.
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My doubts in the Oakley name grows when I heard him everywhere I left. I learned about two more oaks – a boy and a girl – the age of my daughter who lived in our school district. Someone from the church told me that they just had a granddaughter named Oakley Mae, and the other person in the next city over the name of his child Oakley Lynn. At that moment I thought, This is not the way I want to.
Still, we needed time to work to decide to change her name
About two months after birth of Cali, my husband called on a circle officer and asked how hard it would be difficult to change the name. We learned that nothing has been submitted yet, and that would be an easy switch. But I just couldn’t do yet. I think I’m still nervous about how people react.
Initially, Alex let me work through the name on the grells I’m alone to figure out how I felt. But after a while, I should have tegged because I felt so indecisive. When Cali was about 6 months, I asked him to give me a response to the name change: Yes or No. I felt easier when he gave me the final answer: Yes, we should rename our daughter Cali. He also drew how often we listened to Oakley, and we both really liked the name Calihan. Knowing that we would not get another opportunity to use this name covered with the scales.
The other is done, I stopped questioning the decision. I finally knew I made a right choice.
After that discussion, we crossed the call of Baby Kali. Honestly, the biggest reactions arrived from Harlow, Myles and Aspen. They used to call their baby oakley’s baby and we thought we were kidding at first. But after a week or two would be correct us If we got out, like: “No, that’s no longer oakley!” They caught so fast.
The legal process for changing the baby name was easier than I expected
At first I was worried about a legally changing baby’s name was complicated, but given that her biological parents and both agreed with the decision, the process passed more smooth than I thought.
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When she was 7 months, we filed a paperwork in Illinois, where we live and paid for a fee of about $ 300. Then we scheduled the date of the circle for December, when Cali would be 11 months.
As we waited, she was still still oakley, so we had to use it at the doctor’s office and other official places. But we called her at home at home as we could. We knew that at this time she started teaching her name, and we didn’t want to be confused.
If you are discussing a change in your baby’s name, there is a reason for it.
The lowest part of the entire process appears in court. When our first court collapsed, I was sick, and Alex went alone, but after two hours he learned that I had to be there because my name was on a petition. The second time, we had to wait another three hours, but all paperwork and time spent in court were definitely valid. The other was done and done, I stopped questioning the decision. I finally knew in my bowel that I made a right choice.
Our friends and family were surprised but also supported
Before we started the name change process, the only people we said were my parents. But after the paperwork was filed on that seven-month stamp, we started sharing the news with your wider circle of friends and families.
Before that, everyone still called him Oakley. But since then, if someone said Oakley, I would tell them to change her name. Some people don’t initially believe me, but I’d repeat that we were really, and whenever you knew we weren’t kidding, they would answer very positively and supported.
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The only person who got little Snightrky, was one nurse that said, “Oh, you change him from Oakley at (and then he really stressed) Calihan? “But that was. Our loved ones began to call Cali now. Many told me I was glad to follow my heart.
At the end of December, after it was legally officially, I published a video for the re-introduction on social media. Many people said that they could relate to fighting and wanting to do it, but feeling scared. They asked what the process was and if it was difficult. It was good to help them convince them not alone, and it’s not really that hard to make a change.
If you are discussing a change in your baby’s name, there is a reason for it. It is worth the situation seriously, and in the end, it is worth following your heart. It’s your baby in the long run, so you don’t have to care about what other people think. Family and friends who like to support you no matter what. And if they love your baby, they will love them no matter the name.